Recovery, I think you respect me enough to tell you a few things. I was at Bethel, and I can talk from experience. I can tell you a few stories that I know to be fact that happened at bethel. Yes, there have been numerous suicides that occured at Bethel. I know from first hand information. I also can, if you so desire, find a talk by Dan Sydlik where he talks about a particular suicide that occured at bethel. It may take me a while to find it, but it's there. There were numerous suicides there. The pressure gets too much and people do those things sometimes. I'm not bashing bethel when I say that the pressure there with the number of rules and regulations and numerous responsibilities gets extreme.
About rape, I know I've heard stories, but I don't have any first hand info about that. However, there was quite a scandal that happened with some of the housekeepers at bethel. Some of them were called "housekeeper whores" because of some situations that they were getting into that involved wife swapping and sex with some of the single guys there. This is what led to the rule at bethel that a man and a woman (unless it was your wife) could not be alone together unless the front door to your apartment/house/room was open wide. You could be kicked out if your door was shut.
Anyone that has been to bethel knows about numerous stories of this type. No one hid those things at bethel because they were out in the open. We were told in entrance school that we should not talk about anything that has happened at bethel in regards to these things to anyone in the congregation. So largely it was kept secret. But many bad things DO happen at bethel.
I'm saying this so you can know that everything spoken of is not a lie. It's on me and my conscience to tell you this, and I'm telling you that they are not false accusations. Homosexuality was huge at bethel as well. Brother Couch was fond of saying (and this I heard PERSONALLY WHILE AT BETHEL), "Many brothers are turning their lusts on each other. You new boys need to stop. First you start wrestling around in your underwear...then WHAM BAM you're a homo!" This isn't a lie. It's absolutely 100% true.
I only bring this up, not to bash the organization, but to tell you that everything you hear that happens and has happened in the organization is not necessarily a lie. You WANT it to be a lie, especially things like Candice Conti, but WANTING it to be lie doesn't make it a lie.